As I embark on this journey of motherhood, I am reflecting deeply on the kind of environment I want to create for my child. One realization that stands out to me is that a person’s relation to my child doesn’t automatically guarantee them a relationship with my child. This might sound harsh, but it’s a crucial part of breaking the generational curses that have lingered in many black households for far too long.

The first steps to letting go of a toxic family member and moving into your path of healing looks different for everyone depending on your unique situation. Once you’ve had that “aha” or epiphany moment where you can see this family member(s) behavior for what it is, you can embark on the healing journey. You may still struggle with your feelings about them or have some areas that you are trying to process as you heal, and that’s okay.